Self care, self care, blah, blah, blah. This is how people usually react when I ask about their self care and time they spend investing in themselves. I get it, it is talked about a lot and usually gets misunderstood as pampering yourself which turns some people off. Although pedicures and facials may be your thing that is not what self care is exactly.
The definition of self care that I use is; filling your cup up so you can have the energy and mental capacity to work toward your goals and take care of others. Because let’s face it as women we are constantly being pulled in a million different directions and asked to do the work on 3 people in 1 days time. The reality is that you have to be purposeful about scheduling in self care so you actually do it or it will easily fall by the way side. I know this time of year it is especially hard to schedule in self care with the extra demands that the holidays put on your already overflowing plate but that makes it even more important to do.
So if self care is; filling your cup up so you can have the energy and mental capacity to take action on your goals and take care of others, how do you do this? That is the thing, for everyone the answer is different. For me it is down time, quite time with myself and my thoughts, reading, sipping coffee and just breathing in the quiet. For my husband it is being around lots of friends and family and doing activities and going to events that bring him joy. Clearly, we have to be mindful at our house to schedule in time for each of us to be able to fill up our cups to be there for each other and as parents.
What fills your cup, what is your form of self care? Think of things that give you energy, things that make you feel ready to take on the day or hard experiences or things that give you that “ahh” relaxed feeling. It can be pedicures, it can be hiking, it can be running marathons or 5Ks, it can be reading historical romance novels, it can be going on vacation, it can be volunteering, the list goes on. The important things to consider when you are figuring out what is the right type of self care for you is making sure it is only for you, not for anyone else, and that it makes you feel energized and ready to take on the world.
The next and most important step is scheduling self care time in. This is important because we can easily put ourselves last or skip this time but this just sucks that energy out of our lives eventually draining us and putting us in constant catch up mode. When you try to run on empty and are constantly in catch up mode you are always stressed out and irritable. You are never able to reach those goals you have been thinking about or making steps toward because you are constantly playing catch up. Make yourself a priority and be creative with your time so it can be scheduled in. If you really want to you will find a way, if you don’t you will find an excuse. Stop making excuses to yourself and commit to your own self care.
Start today. Explore what you need to do for self care and start scheduling that in your schedule first, not last. I can’t wait to hear about the impact this small change can make on your daily life!